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4 Ways To Be A Better LGBTQ+ Ally | 四種方式讓你變成LGBTQ+社群的最佳盟友

(Straight ally flag)

I have lived LGBTQ+ adjacent most of my life. I have family members, friends, and colleagues who identify by these labels. And over the course of my life, I’ve been trying to suck less as an ally.

Being straight, cisgendered, white, and male has granted me several privileges. There are too many to list, but here are some examples of both my white and straight privileges. I never worry if the way I look harms my career prospects. Before a date, I have never texted a friend asking them to check on me later and make sure my date didn’t harm me. And my parents have never disowned me based on who I love. My life has been easy. But I’ve known people who did not have such privileges. LGBTQ+ people can often use support from people like you and me. So if you want to help, but aren’t sure where to start, here are some tips:

1. Listen

When talking with LGBTQ+ people, be conscious of how much you are talking versus how much you are listening. If they are spending their valuable time teaching you, treat them with the respect you would a professor. They are the experts. You are not. Just nod quietly, ask questions politely, and remember that they are human beings.

2. They Don’t Owe You Anything

If an LGBTQ+ person takes time to explain their life to you, great. It’s nice that you get to learn something new. But if you ask good-natured questions, and your LGBTQ+ buddy replies, “Thanks for the curiosity, but I’d rather talk about movies,” or “I’m more than just who I love,” or, “Please stop asking me such personal questions,” take that as your cue to shift topics. LGBTQ+ people are not your tour guides to the magical land of queerness. If they don’t wanna talk about it, they don’t have to.

3. Use Your Power to Make Space for Others

If you’re white, cis, male, or the whole trifecta, this applies especially to you: use your privilege to lift marginalized voices. If an LGBTQ+ person you know is being ignored in a group, help direct conversation back to their concern. If LGBTQ+ issues are on the ballot in an election, vote for candidates who respect their rights. And finally, champion LGBTQ+ causes to those who need their minds changed. If you have privilege, you probably have a lot less to lose when you support LGBTQ+ people than they do. Certain LGBTQ+ people do not have this freedom, because if they were to out themselves, they could be shunned by their families, berated, or physically hurt. Remember: the most common way people are oppressed is by not being taken as seriously as equals. When you speak up for LGBTQ+ equality, you make their world safer.

4. Read a Book, Watch a Movie

Always good advice, right? Stories help us see things from different points of view. They also help us learn without having to pester LGBTQ+ people with questions they may get asked all the time. So watch some movies, read a few books, and then go directly to experts who can tell you how to be the best ally you can be.

We can’t fix the world all at once. And while we’re trying, we will all make mistakes. But by doing your best and putting others first, you can make the world feel a little bit more like home for your LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters.

(Editing: Elyse Mark)


在我大部分的生命裡,與LGBTQ+ 的社群一直有緊密的連結。我的家人們、朋友們、到工作上的同事,很多人都自認是該社群的一份子,這些年來,我也一直致力於成為LGBTQ+社群最好的盟友。


然而,LQBTQ+ 並沒有這些優勢且他們的人生也不總是那麼順遂,而能夠支持他們的人,正是你跟我。如果你也想要盡一己之力幫助LGBTQ+社群,下面是幾點小提示。

1. 聆聽

當你在跟LGBTQ+ 朋友們聊天時,請時刻注意自己說話與聆聽的時間比例。當LGBTQ+朋友們在教導且分享有關他們的知識,請給予他們應得的尊重,因為這方面的相關知識,他們是專家。談話中可以安靜的點頭,禮貌的問問題,並且謹記在心,LGBTQ+也是一般人。

2. 回答你的問題不是LGBTQ+的義務


3. 運用一已之力,創造LGBTQ+現身空間


4. 接觸相關書籍、電影

多接觸LGBTQ+ 相關書籍、電影永遠是個好建議吧!好故事幫助我們從不同角度審視生活,讓我們不需要拿那些LGBTQ+朋友已經聽過上百次的老問題騷擾他們,也能得知他們的生活處境。所以,看些電影、讀一些相關的書,然後再去找專家,問問他們是否需要任何援手。


(Translating: Wei Chen, Lian Tsai; Editing: Alexis Goh)

#ally盟友 #education教育 #community社群 #gay男同志 #lesbian女同志 #bisexual雙性戀 #transgender跨性別

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