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4 Ways To Be A Better LGBTQ+ Ally | 四種方式讓你變成LGBTQ+社群的最佳盟友

April 8, 2017

 

 (Straight ally flag)

 

I have lived LGBTQ+ adjacent most of my life. I have family members, friends, and colleagues who identify by these labels. And over the course of my life, I’ve been trying to suck less as an ally.

 

Being straight, cisgendered, white, and male has granted me several privileges. There are too many to list, but here are some examples of both my white and straight privileges. I never worry if the way I look harms my career prospects. Before a date, I have never texted a friend asking them to check on me later and make sure my date didn’t harm me. And my parents have never disowned me based on who I love. My life has been easy. But I’ve known people who did not have such privileges. LGBTQ+ people can often use support from people like you and me. So if you want to help, but aren’t sure where to start, here are some tips:

 

1. Listen

 

When talking with LGBTQ+ people, be conscious of how much you are talking versus how much you are listening. If they are spending their valuable time teaching you, treat them with the respect you would a professor. They are the experts. You are not. Just nod quietly, ask questions politely, and remember that they are human beings.

 

2. They Don’t Owe You Anything

 

If an LGBTQ+ person takes time to explain their life to you, great. It’s nice that you get to learn something new. But if you ask good-natured questions, and your LGBTQ+ buddy replies, “Thanks for the curiosity, but I’d rather talk about movies,” or “I’m more than just who I love,” or, “Please stop asking me such personal questions,” take that as your cue to shift topics. LGBTQ+ people are not your tour guides to the magical land of queerness. If they don’t wanna talk about it, they don’t have to.

 

 

3. Use Your Power to Make Space for Others

 

If you’re white, cis, male, or the whole trifecta, this applies especially to you: use your privilege to lift marginalized voices. If an LGBTQ+ person you know is being ignored in a group, help direct conversation back to their concern. If LGBTQ+ issues are on the ballot in an election, vote for candidates who respect their rights. And finally, champion LGBTQ+ causes to those who need their minds changed. If you have privilege, you probably have a lot less to lose when you support LGBTQ+ people than they do. Certain LGBTQ+ people do not have this freedom, because if they were to out themselves, they could be shunned by their families, berated, or physically hurt. Remember: the most common way people are oppressed is by not being taken as seriously as equals. When you speak up for LGBTQ+ equality, you make their world safer.


 

4. Read a Book, Watch a Movie

 

Always good advice, right? Stories help us see things from different points of view. They also help us learn without having to pester LGBTQ+ people with questions they may get asked all the time. So watch some movies, read a few books, and then go directly to experts who can tell you how to be the best ally you can be.

 

We can’t fix the world all at once. And while we’re trying, we will all make mistakes. But by doing your best and putting others first, you can make the world feel a little bit more like home for your LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters.


(Editing: Elyse Mark)

 

在我大部分的生命裡,與LGBTQ+ 的社群一直有緊密的連結。我的家人們、朋友們、到工作上的同事,很多人都自認是該社群的一份子,這些年來,我也一直致力於成為LGBTQ+社群最好的盟友。

 

在這個社會上,身為一個異性戀、順性別白人男性,這些先天的特質的確賦予我一些優勢。例子太多不勝枚舉,就單純以一個異性戀白人來說,我從來不必擔心外表會影響到我的職涯,外出約會也從來不需要事先向朋友報備,請他們確認我在約會過程中的人身安全。而我的父母也不會因為我愛上誰與我斷絕關係,從這幾點看來,我的人生已經過得比很多人順遂。

 

然而,LQBTQ+ 並沒有這些優勢且他們的人生也不總是那麼順遂,而能夠支持他們的人,正是你跟我。如果你也想要盡一己之力幫助LGBTQ+社群,下面是幾點小提示。


 

1. 聆聽

 

當你在跟LGBTQ+ 朋友們聊天時,請時刻注意自己說話與聆聽的時間比例。當LGBTQ+朋友們在教導且分享有關他們的知識,請給予他們應得的尊重,因為這方面的相關知識,他們是專家。談話中可以安靜的點頭,禮貌的問問題,並且謹記在心,LGBTQ+也是一般人。

 

 

2. 回答你的問題不是LGBTQ+的義務            

 

如果你的LGBTQ+朋友們願意花時間解釋他們身為這一個社群的生命經歷,那麼這絕對是你學習新知的絕妙機會。但有時候雖然你出自善意提問,但LGBTQ+的朋友們卻回答;「謝謝你的好奇心,但我比較想討論電影耶」、「我愛的人不能定義我整個人」,或者是「請不要再問我這麼私人的問題了」,這表示你應該換話題了。LGBTQ+朋友不是你窺探酷兒世界的導遊。如果他們不想多談,他們沒有義務要談。

 

3. 運用一已之力,創造LGBTQ+現身空間

 

如果你是白人、順性別、男性,或集三者於一身,這點對你來說特別重要:運用先天社會賦予你的優勢為弱勢族群發聲。如果一名LGBTQ+份子在群體中遭到忽視,巧妙的將話題導回他們身上。如果LGBTQ+議題在選舉場合出現,投給支持他們的候選人。最後,向反同團體宣導LGBTQ+的存在緣由。當你擁有先天上的優勢,你支持LGBTQ+需要付出的代價遠比LGBTQ+人們還少。部分的LGBTQ+夥伴並沒有這項自由,因為如果他們出櫃,可能會遭到親友疏離、斥責,甚至承受生理上的傷害。要記得,人們最常遭受的壓迫就是沒被一視同仁的公平對待。每次你為LGBTQ+平權發聲,都是讓他們的世界變得更安全一點。

 

4. 接觸相關書籍、電影

 

多接觸LGBTQ+ 相關書籍、電影永遠是個好建議吧!好故事幫助我們從不同角度審視生活,讓我們不需要拿那些LGBTQ+朋友已經聽過上百次的老問題騷擾他們,也能得知他們的生活處境。所以,看些電影、讀一些相關的書,然後再去找專家,問問他們是否需要任何援手。

 

我們不可能一下就解決世上的種種難題,而當我們嘗試時,我們也可能犯錯。但就盡力去做,多站在他人立場思考,你就能讓LGBTQ+手足們生活的世界更加溫馨有愛。


(Translating: Wei Chen, Lian Tsai; Editing: Alexis Goh)

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